9 Ways to Practice Self-Love

In the hustle and bustle of life, self love can fall at the end of a long list of priorities.

I have done this more times than I would like to admit. The crazy thing is, I use to think that when I put myself last, it made me a more loving and kind person. What I  began to realize over time is that, no one benefits from me not loving myself properly. When self-love in’t a daily practice for me my relationships suffers, my job suffers and even my health suffers. I began to realize, if I can't serve love and help myself, I will never be able to serve love and help others. When we have a lack of self-love we become irritable, jealous, angry or resentful. We can even become sick and lack energy to do things for those we love.

We see the World through the filters we have built in our minds, so a loving inner dialogue is crucial to experiencing a loving world around us.  When I made self-love a priority in my life, I began to experience a deeper and more loving connection to those around me. Once we see how others flourish in our expanding light, it becomes a switch we never want to shut off.

 Here are my 9 ways to practice Self-love

  • Put down the measuring stick – Stop comparing yourself. Not only is our judgment not fair to other people it is detrimental to our own mental health and self-love. Connect to people with the compassion you had as a child, remember a time when labels didn’t exist and everything was new and wonderful. Also be mindful of the images and ideas you consume on a daily basis. If you are watching shows, reading magazines or engaging in conversations that affect your self-image, be kind to yourself and walk away. What we surround ourselves with become the filters we see the world through, so choose surroundings that support uniqueness, individuality and love.

  • Be more like a child – Be more playful in your life and restore a sense of innocence and laughter. Do whatever it takes to get yourself smiling, when we shine from the inside the whole world lights up around us.

  •  Decide – The very act of making a decision is incredibly powerful. Acknowledgment that you are lacking the love you deserve is in of itself is a massive act of love.  By doing this you are confirming to your subconscious mind that you are ready to nurture and love that part of yourself. By deciding you need to love yourself more, you will also begin to desire and demand deeper and more loving connections with others.

  • Use your words wisely – Our words can either be a blessing or a curse to ourselves and to others. They have the ability to build us up or tear us down. Do you speak to yourself with words of kindness, compassion and love? What kind of questions do you ask yourself, are they ones with positive connotations or negative ones?  Take note of your inner and outer dialogue, use words of love instead of fear. Instead of asking questions that presuppose failure, ask ones that presuppose greatness!

  • Forgiveness – Forgiveness is one of the greatest gifts we can give to ourselves and to another. When we hold onto resentment, it hovers over us like a dark cloud. It is hard to be free in our hearts to fully love, if we carry with us stories from our past. It doesn’t mean that you need to be best friends with those who have wronged you, it just means that you are willing to free up a space up in your heart for more love to come in. While you are at it practice forgiving yourself for all of the small things you do too, life is too short to play the woulda, shoulda, coulda game.

  • Mirror, Mirror on the wall – Yes that’s right, say it loud, and say it proud. “I LOVE YOU” in the mirror, every day. If you haven’t already tried it, give it a go. It’s amazing what kind of emotions come up when we utter those three words to ourselves. We expect to hear it from others but often times it’s us who we need to hear it from the most. Make this a daily practice, learn to be comfortable with giving yourself the love that you deserve.

  •  Dare to dream– By daring to dream you are letting yourself know that you are worthy of the future your heart desires. When we stop entertaining the amazing possibilities that life may have in store for us, we are killing our inner child who see’s a world of possibilities in every moment.  Dare to dream and believe that somehow someway it is possible, because you deserve it.

  • You are who you hang out with – Make sure that you surround yourself with people that bring you up not tear you down.  Bonus points go to friends and loved ones who make us laugh and smile often. It is hard to love ourselves when we have others around us who reflect the very negative self-talk we are trying to escape from. Take inventory of those you have around you and surround yourself with those that make you feel beautiful, special and unique as much as you possible can.

  • Give unconditional love to another- This is not to be underrated, it is one of the most powerful tools you have to make yourself feel amazing. Do one thing a day for someone else just because you can. Smile at a stranger, pay it forward and try to be kind in a situation where you would rather be right. When we truly give unconditional love to another we free them from our judgments and rules, when we accept them as they are we are giving them permission to be themselves. We truly have the power to lift another's spirit so why not use it!!!

Thanks for reading, I have so many more but we will get to that in other posts 😉

I would love to hear from you in the comments below! How do you practice self-love?

Many blessings,

ashley cooper, success, struggle, triumph, inspiration, motivation, coaching,
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