As empathic entrepreneurs, one of the many things that can really shoot you in the foot is people-pleasing. We care so deeply about others and want to see our friends, family and clients succeed that we often comprise our own happiness in order to help make that happen. So we give and give until we become too drained to focus on our own mission and dreams.
When you constantly put others first and seek their approval, your own dreams and success suffer. So it's important to know when and where to draw the line. If you don't, you can easily become overwhelmed and stressed by the amount of work that is piling up in your business in addition to that of those you are helping. So you have to learn to stop being a doormat and stop letting everyone's judgements control your life.
It comes to no surprise that the number one regret is living a life that is not true to you and is true to other people. So in order to avoid this, you have to listen to your own heart and allocate time to your own career and goals. Sure, there will be those who tell you to “be realistic” and get your head out of the clouds. But for every person who discourages you from pursuing your passions, there will be someone who will encourage you.
So remember that love comes hand in hand with hate. For every dislike on your Youtube videos, every negative comment on your Instagram post and every nay-sayer in your life, there will be people who will do the contrary. These are the people who will believe and support you and your cause. More often than not, these are the people you are trying to reach with your content. So when you are wallowing in your self-doubt and fear of judgement, remember these people. Remember that you are doing all of this not only for yourself but for them. Besides, haters will expand your reach through their engagement, as all those negative comments and dislikes will trigger the algorithm and allow your content to rank higher. At the end of the day, the decision to live the life you want or a life dictated by others is yours. So decide wisely.
Are you a people-pleaser? Feel free to let me know in the comments or to reach out to me on social media, I’d love to hear from you! Also be sure to check out my Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/paintopower/featured every Wednesday for new videos!
Many blessings & much love,
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