4 ways to be Wonder Woman for YOU

It's great to want to be a super hero in lives of everyone you love, BUT remember while you're running around taking care of everyone else, you take time to take care of yourself

When I was a little girl, I use to pretend that was Wonder Woman. I would tie a towel around my neck and run around the house screaming “WONDER WOMAN.” Sad to say but I am 34 and I though I dropped the fake cape, it’s been a struggle to drop the delusion. Like many people I tend to bite off more than I can chew, give myself unrealistic expectations and expect to be everywhere for everyone all of the time. To be honest, I think it would be much less insane for me to still be wearing a cape around my neck while running around my parent’s house.

Recently I have been forced to give myself a big old reality check. Because (insert sarcastic gasp here) I am not Wonder Woman, not even close.  After months of feeling, drained and exhausted, I knew that something needed to give. I was so sick and tired of feeling sick and tired and was so overcommitted and overwhelmed that I couldn’t even think straight. Day and night I had been working, not taking weekends and not even making a dent in my growing to do list. What made matters worse; I kept saying YES to more stuff!!!!  It was like I believed that some magical fairy would swoop in and suddenly take care of the other fifty million things I had to do.  I was getting to the point, where I would barely be out of bed in the morning before wanting to crawl back in for the night. I can only imagine what it is like to be a parent!!!!

I began to realize that the weight of the world was stacking up on my shoulders, because I was putting it there.  My want to say yes to everyone ( or rather my inability to say no ) usually gets me into more trouble than I bargained for.  What can seem like an amazing idea on the spot can stack up and be the proverbial straw that broke the camels back.

Wanting to be everything for everyone is great, but it usually results in you being unable to be yourself. The fact of the matter is, no one around you will ever benefit from you not living in your full power.  All of the promises in the world are worth nothing if we don’t have the energy to follow through, half ass it or cancel last minute. If you are anything like me, this will just result in more guilt to pile on those heavy shoulders.

I have come to realize, the more things that I take on beyond my ability to cope will just result in me feeling overwhelmed and drained. The future becomes less of something I look forward to and more of something I dread. So lets be honest with ourselves, if we think we are being kind to others by overextending ourselves, it’s a delusion. No one in the world will ever benefit from you being run down, lacking energy or unable to fulfill your purpose, least of all you!

4 WAYS TO BE WONDER WOMAN, FOR YOU:

  • Know your end result: Set goals and know your end destination. If you know where you need to end up, you can prioritize what you need to do to get there.  Once you achieve the most important goals, reassess your priorities.  Achieving our goals and ticking things off of lists, give us more energy and power to move forward with other things!

  • Just say no: Often times its us who puts the pressure on for us to be and do everything. Say no from the get go to things you are unsure you are able to follow through with, you can always change your mind if you have time left over. If you have a friend who doesn’t understand the boundaries you set, perhaps you need to reevaluate their presence in your life. Keep those close to you who bring you higher and understand the importance of your achieving your dreams. Friends should realize that your no is not a no to them, it’s a yes to yourself.

  • Know when good, is good enough Know when your best is good enough and drop the need to be a perfectionist. Life is so much easier when you give it your best and know when to let go.

  • Make time for you: No matter how busy you are take time for YOU. Even if you don’t have time, go for a fifteen-minute walk, or go out and be in nature, do whatever it takes to give your mind a break.  Take that time to be grateful for all that you have accomplished that day and do an inventory in your mind of how you will go about executing the rest of the day. Visualize your success before it happens.

 

I hope this helps you & remember even though we aren’t Wonder Woman or Super Man & though we may not look quite as good in spandex, we are ALL petty damn AWESOME!

Many Blessings,

ashley cooper, success, struggle, triumph, inspiration, motivation, coaching,

P.S. If you liked this, check out my article on 9 ways to practice the art of self love here!